Mom NH 7 yrs. If don't visit often care suffers. Dad home but barely. Even if I did decide to take on such a huge emotional fight Again, I don't have the energy to empty his cluttered house and sell it. I'm 47 and disabled. Parents kind but expect I will always take care of all. Dad has caregiver 5 hrs a day. I live down street. I don't do all the hands on work but am on call 24/7 and never go out of town. NH aren't a blissful answer as many seem to think. You still worry because they are cold (They really are) They are hungry and in pain and workers do their best but too many people to take care of. This has been going on 15 yrs. Does anyone feel like me? overwhelmed. trying to get by on the least possible effort; Other people don't understand. I've gone to groups and gotten counseling. I'm just burned out on the whole subject. But I know I won't have any life when they die. I've given it all up long time ago. No interests now. So far out of the loop.