My mom needs to be placed in a nursing home. Where do I start?
My mom has been living with us for over 2 years and her Parkinsons is progressing to the point that I cannot meet her needs anymore. I do have a lady come in on the days that I work for 4 hrs, she gets her meals ready and spends time with her. However, my mom is failing fast and I don't want to come home and find her laying on the floor... she does have an emergency button, but is not compliant with wearing it. I have laid ground rules with her, and limits! I am a single mom of 3 children, my youngest is 12 and is going through a lot herself seeing her grammy like this and needs me. I'm torn between the care of my mom and what my kids need from me. I also am an only child without any extended family in the area. I'm a Pediatric RN, and as a nurse my mom expects me to know everything and coordinate everything. However, this type of nursing is not my expertise. I work three 12 hr shifs per week. My sons ages 18 and 21 are great with her, but they have lives too w/ college and jobs... It's very stressful and I am having a very hard time. I feel that I have done my best and it is time to find others to care for her needs. I can be a better daughter if she doesn't live with me. I have been anxious, depressed, and overwhelmed. I tried to call her PMD today, but she is away until next week. I thought that would be a good place to start in order to start the placement process. Does anyone else have any suggestions for me? Thank you.