How do I deal with the spouse of someone who has Alzheimer's and does not take the AZ person out of the house with exception of the back porch?
The husband will not take his wife who has Alzheimer Disease out of the house for anything. A relative had to speak up and suggest letting her get her hair done. The response was, "I'll ask her if she wants to and get a hair dresser to come to the home.' The wheelchair wheels do not lock and the left arm rest is damaged. The reply to that was "It was a loaner from the doctor's office. She cannot walk so we have to push her from point A to point B in the home." Pictures of family have been removed from sight. There is not a visible calendar to be found. The windows in the living room are to high to see out of. The only window in the dining/kitchen area is French Doors to the back porch. Curtains in the bedroom are kept closed. There are no windows in the bathrooms. Scatter rugs are picked up by the care provider who is neither licensed nor works for an agency but is a private individual. The husband puts the rugs back down. The wife has been known to slip on the scatter rug in front of her toilet. She is a fall risk, too weak to walk without assistance...from being over medicated. The wife has also said she does not want to be in a wheelchaiar. On a visit by her sister she wore a t-shirt her sister gave to her as a present. She asked for makeup so she would look nice for her sister's visit. Her cell phone has been hidden away and she is not allowed to use. Her care provider is not allowed to make calls for her. Family is not notified of changes and was not notified of the illness for several months. She was supposedly hospitalized in a psyche hospital for hitting her hands yet her hands show no signs of abuse but her face, wrists and breasts do. Several months prior she had bruises on her breasts and her back. Pictures were taken this year but none last year however APS claims they cannot investigate last year's events only current. Current: hair dresser comes on Saturdays but that only started two Saturdays ago. She supposedly can walk now but the person from APS claims she cannot. The husband says she can now. The psche meds were stopped but when the husband refuses to say. The wife appeared to be over sedated because she kept drifting off to sleep in the daytime. The husband claims he gives her only her blood pressure medicine and fluid pill. He was witnessed givng her a fist full of meds at bedtime. He leaves for work before she gets up. The care provider didn't even know where the meds were and is not licensed to give them. The conclusion is he is giving her morning meds at bedtime. You do not give fluid pills at bedtime. She takes two bloodpressure meds, one contains Diazide and she takes a Diazide pill extra. These are not bedtime meds. You get one story from APS and a partially different one from the husband. A supposedly anoymous report turns into a not anyomous report because the person from APS tells the husband what the person told her. He calls and fuses at the person who made the call and says you are the only one who has complained about what the person from APS spoke about. The person from APS states "You cannot override the husband. You cannot get more doctors to examine her." The person who did the reporting never asked for those things. It is understood that social deprivation/isolation is a form of abuse. It is understood that if the wheelchair was indeed a loaner from the doctors office that the doctor and the husband would be liable should the wife be injured as a result of the defective wheelchair. The only way family can make contact is to call the husband's cell phone. There is no homeline. The family is not kept informed and is not part of her circle of care. The family does not know who the doctors are nor what medicines she is on. This diagnosis was done in the spring of 2011. The wife is in her early sixties. The wife called family members numerous times in 2011 asking for help, stating she hated her husband, wanted to live with her sister, and he beat me. Those messages have been saved but they were last year and are of no use this month or last month. She toild her doctor she and her husband were having marital problems and that made the husband angry. She asked someone to verfiy his employment and the husband found out about it and told the party involved to "Get out of my business." He worked overtime 5 days a week and worked on weekends and stopped going to church. She was alone too much which frightened her. Now that she is supposedly worse he takes off work early to get groceries and is with her on weekends which is the only times she has gotten hurt and had to have stitches on her face and got a broken nose. She has not been injured during the times the care provider is with her. How do you handle that?