My father doesn't have dementia or Alzheimer's, but since he was released from the hospital, he has been a monster at night. What can be done about this?
Doesn't have dementia or AD, but since he was released from hospital and then rehab hospital he's been a monster at night. He sleeps about the same in the day and night, so keeping him awake all day just makes both our lives miserable. He takes these little 20 min naps all day and night and awakes rested. Me, on the other hand, not so much. I'm up with him every 45 minutes to an hour all night and all day long. At night, he's whiny, anxious, says he needs to pee so I get him up. Lately he's said the devil is in his room (no door in his room to begin with- I wonder if he's talking about me). He gets irate when I don't run to him- even in the middle of the night- when all he wants is to go to the living room to his chair. He's taken to calling out "help me, somebody help me" it's only me around- not sure who "somebody" is, although I'd love to meet him, perhaps then I can sleep a night or two. My dad has turned into a drama queen. We are not very dramatic people. Ugh. We've made a rule now that I will check on him at midnight, then again at 2:00, then again at 5:00 and if he wants to get up at 5 I will put him in his recliner and give him coffee and a sweet. He lays there all night thinking up reasons to wake me between those hours. The rule is he is only to call if he needs to pee or poop. Not for water, not for another pillow, etc. Needless to say, my little rule isn't working. He has taken to flushing the toilet while he's still sitting so I can't see he didn't really need to pee. I'm beyond exhausted. I have help for a few hours a day (in the evening) when my son comes from school (he's in college). I usually run to the grocery store or make dinner during that time. It's not practical for me to sleep or nap during the day because he's so unpredictable. It's like he's scared. He lives in the "mother in law" quarters so he's technically alone at night, but he's so close that a baby monitor reaches from the farthest corner of his place to the farthest corner of my house, so he's not really alone. It's not an option to sleep at his place- the little sleep I get, I want to be comfortable,and I'm pretty sure my husband and I have gone way beyond being able to both fit on the couch, and I don't want to move him into my dining room- it's the only place he can't come (because of steps into my house) I need some "me" space too. They didn't pay much attention to him at the rehab center. In fact they would just ignore him most of the time, but it's never been that way at home. Nighttime has become such a stressful time for both of us. I'm so tired my body aches enough to take pain killers (I'm not a medicine taker). I'm up all day and night with him and still expected to cook, clean, drive... Asking someone for respite isnt an option right now. I'm just curious if someone else has had to deal with this nighttime situation. He's never been like this before- he's always "beeped" through the night, but now it's all night long and doesn't stop. He sees his doctor tomorrow and I'm curious if theres something I should ask specifically about. He's not on a bunch of meds, so theres no drug interactions and nothing new. Help!!