i have med poa for my demented mom. i have the letter from her doctor stating her condition & he also recommends in the letter to get help for her. i want to get her help, but my mom & my brother, who has financial poa disagree. she had fallen once & had surgery because of the fall. i don't think she should live by herself anymore. how can i expedite the process of getting help for her before she hurt herself again? can i jus hire the care-giver & send the bill to my brother? do i have legal rights to do this? can my brother refuse to pay & if so what will happen to my mom?