My 81 yo father spends a lot of time staying with my wife & I but my siblings contribute very little. It is causing tension in our house. My father spends 3-4 days a week with us, and we also provide meals for him when he is at home. When he is sick he moves in with us (3-6 weeks a time) unitl fit enough to go home. He makes no contribution at all, which is fine as money is not the issue for us. However, my two siblings live much closer to him and contribute very little financially go out of their way to spend time with him and it has evolved in the 3 years since my mother passed away that we'll do it all. Both siblings have 'borrowed' thousands of dollars from him over the years and never repaid him, whilst I have been financially independant of my parents (my choice). I feel growing resentment to my siblings that lately is manifesting as impatience towards Dad. I don't want to fall out with him but open communication on such topics I fear would not be well received to say the least. I would love some ideas to protect my relationship with Dad and ensure he is cared for.