What to do! I am divorced, should I have my mom live with my son and I?
My Dad died suddenly last New Year's Eve. It was devestating for all of us, but my Mom obviously was affected the most. She and my father were married for 43 years and together for 48 and knew eachother for 53 years (she is now 63).
To make a longer story shorter, she is extremely depressed and, my family and I believe she just cannot be alone, nor does she want to be alone. She wants to live with me.
I am a 33 year old divorced, single Mom. So this presents many issues for me. I am willing to do what is best for my Mom. In fact, it would not be a bad situation for me and my son either if we all lived together. My Mom babysits daily as it is and I am having trouble affording my home on my single income. Moving in together would solve many of our problems.
However, I'm also looking at my own life and what is best for me in the long run, too.
While my brothers do help out with things, they have their own families and would not be willing to move my Mom in their homes. So all of this is on me. Although they are willing to help financially if they have to.
I guess I'm just not sure what the best thing to do is. If we lived together we would sell our current homes and look for something bigger with an in-law suite or something akin to that. We would definitely need our own space. My Mom is not incapable of being alone, but her loneliness and depression are eating away her mentally and physically at this point and this seems to be the only solution.
I'm not really sure what advice I'm seeking. This is just a major decision and I'm wondering if anyone else has been in my position (single parent, etc.).