kukla77 Asked October 2012

How do I set up guardianship for Mom?

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How do I set up Guardianship for Mom...Since she's in denial of her mental capacities..I feel she's not making the best decisions..
She's become agressive and verbally abusive and I want to protect her at all costs.

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You also may want to consider getting power of attorney.
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twotonne Nov 2012
Personality changes and an inability to make decisions are indications of any dementia affecting the frontal lobe. A good place to begin is to get a referral to a neurologist who will do an MRI, CT or PET scan for a diagnosis.
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jeannegibbs Nov 2012
kukla77, what you describe is very typical behavior for dementia. I suppose there can be other causes of paranoia besides dementia but that's a good first guess. Can you take Mom to a geriatric psychiatrist or a behavioral neurologist, letting them know ahead of time the kinds of behavior you are seeing? Mom is on meds, but is she on the right meds for her present condition? Since it hasn't even been diagnosed, I wouldn't be too confident of that.

What you are experiencing is extremely common and also extremely upsetting for the caregiver. I think it will help you to get a diagnosis for Mom and then learn all you can about her condition. That will help you not take it personally. It is the disease talking, not the mother who loves you.
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kukla77 Nov 2012
Thanks all, decided not to go the guardianship route...I do have medical and durable power of attorney, but since Mom has a trust, I can't do anything with her money while she's alive..(not that I want to).. I do make appointments, and can discuss her medical conditions with insurance companies...but my problem now is she's verbally abusive to me (her only caregiver)...accuses me of stealing from her, cheating her from day 1 (her words)..wanting to commit her..Now's she's told my daughter I "left" her...She's in an assisted living facility and being cared for however, I was there -5 days a week for her and I'm only 3 miles away so I'd ak her to all her appointments, etc even shopping out for the day..She's accused me of going through her things when she's not there (not true!).."what are you looking for, you already have everything of mine" This is what I was hit with on my last visit...I'm thinking it's dementia...not sure...she's NEVER WRONG, and NEVER FORGETS (her words)...can't bring myself to visit for awhile...it hurts too much...thinking of seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist who ever can prescribe something for me...I did see a therapist but it didn't help ...I was told she needed medication (well, she's on meds)
thanks for letting me 'vent'!
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jeannegibbs Nov 2012
Do you have durable power of attorney for your mother?
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igloo572 Oct 2012
Guardianship isn't easy and you will need experienced legal to represent you. If you have a HIPPA release on file to be able to access and copy mom's medical records, this will make things somewhat easier for the attorney & you.

Probably the easiest way to get temporary guardianship is for the police to do an imminent danger charge & they get locked up for evaluation and you file for temporary guardianship during this period of time. This is done in court and you really need an attorney. Then you use that period of time and your guardianship power to get the evaluations done. This can run several thousands of $ so be prepared to pay for this. One of my dearest friends sister is bipolar and she was yelling about people in the garbage cans and shooting at the neighbors cans. The police did an imminent danger to society charge on her. She was in a state facility for 3 mos & temporary guardianship was then made permanent as a condition of her release. None of it was simple or easy or inexpensive. Good luck.
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jeannegibbs Oct 2012
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