My mom with dementia doesn't remember that dad is dead. How do I deal with this?
When my brothers or I tell her that he's passed away (which we don't always do...sometimes we just let it go), she gets angry at us that we had the viewing, funeral and reception without her and didn't tell her that he died. She was present at everything. There is no sadness on her part - just anger than we supposedly left her out of everything. She also thinks that the same has happened with her mother, father and brother. How do I deal with this? It's sad for us to have to tell her repeatedly that Dad is gone. Sometimes, if I go along with her delusion that he is still alive (and living elsewhere, according to her), then she catches me in my "lie", later, and says, "But you said that he was at your house", etc., when really I had just gone along with her to avoid an argument, getting her upset, etc. It's horrible. This is just one of many issues/problems that are ongoing with her.