How can I stop my husband with dementia from ordering things he doesn't need over the web?
My husband has dementia and a brain injury due to MVA. Husband usually can figure out how to place an order over the web using his credit cards. He ordered 6 room heaters last year and I ended up having to return the extras. Ordered two walkers. I returned the extra one. Orders live animals and they are delivered to the front door and I end up caring for them and him until I can find homes for the animals. He is a serious control freak and has become emotionally and verbally abusive if I suggest he not buy something. He has always been that way but since a couple of surgeries and then the head injury in a motor vehicle accident he has gotten MUCH worse. Also after a recent kidney infection I had to call 911 as he fell out of bed and I couldn't lift him, EMT's said he needed to be transported to the ER, he refused, they said I needed to authorize it since I had the POA, so I did and he put me through hell for doing so. He has gone from using a walker after the accident to now requiring a power wheelchair. He is now determined to sell the 3 year old truck we had made to accommodate his power chair and buy a van that will allow him to drive up into it and then transfer to drivers seat and drive the van. He refuses to agree to go to DMV and this his DL, or to insure the new vehicle. There is no way to stop him. He lies. He manipulates and bullies me into submission and is just cruel. I am at a loss how to stop him from buying things. We have been married 38 years but the last three years since the accident have destroyed my health. We cannot afford for him to go into a care facility. I am alone in these circumstances but for now I just must stop his shopping, hopefully without him knowing I had anything to do with it. I am afraid of a man whose diapers I have to change and who cannot walk. Something is wrong with me to be fearful but I am. I am feeling beat up, exhausted but must stop his spending our money. Please advise how I can do that. Thank you.