Is anyone else medicating themselves with food?

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I find, that in the last year, I have put on so much weight. At first I thought it was passive eating, then, I noticed that I was overeating at the most stressful moments in my life...which have been many, lately.
I realized that this is no less destructive than over indulging in alcohol, pills, or other negative behaviors. It almost feels like I am destroying my health out of the frustration of not being able to handle everything right now.
I noticed that my face becomes red and hot when I get just a little stressed. I think I may have high blood pressure, too (which I never had before).
Added to these problems, I have no desire (or time) to exercise properly. I feel like I am sinking...there is nothing postive to hold onto right now...just more work and more stress.
Does anyone have a good solution for getting back on track healthwise...especially if you do not have a lot of free time? I find myself envying those people who go to "spas" to unwind. The only spa I have is my bathtub :o(
thanks...Lilli

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Hi all you wonderful caregivers and Happy New Year. One thing that really bugs me about the weight gain is that I do not get that much pleasure from food. I eat it because I have to but I am not enjoying eating since I have become a caregiver and am responsible for someone else's nutrition. It is weird. I keep promising myself weight watchers but the thought of all the planning, cooking and meetings gets me overwhelmed. I have enough to do already - unfortunately not much of it is for me. I just wish my metabolism would rev up and let me shed some of this gut weight. Is that too much to ask???? - hahaha.
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I am so glad to read that I am not the only one with these sorts of problems. I used to be very particular about my looks also, but working and caregiving takes up literally all of my day. I want to exercise, but literally have no time to do so. I keep thinking someday... but I really don't want to wish my life away. There has got to be a solution!
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When my sweet mom was alive she ate like a Super Model! ... and I was always trying to lose weight. It was ridiculous... we would just laugh about it.

I was always looking for meatloaf and macaroni and cheese recipes for her and I would cook up a wonderful cheesy beefy pasta or lasagna and she would sit down to eat it, but I had been cooking and driving to her house (sitting) all day and I just could hardly eat with her....

I felt like I was losing my mind sometimes. Now that she is gone, I clearly munch too much. It's no one's fault but my own. I fall for every goodie that anyone offers me, but not anymore. For New Year's I am going to say I have a health 'issue' and refuse the offers.

I am determined to start eating like a ... Super Model! :-) Vegetables and fruits galore!!
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Oh yes the weight - 30 lbs here over the last year. I think it is a combination of stress and probably too many calories! My Mums - who is 110lbs soaking wet - eats constantly. She is grazing all day and then want the 3 meals also. It is driving me mad. Here she is all focused on eating and I am the one carrying the extra weight. This may sound really vain but the weight gain is one of the hardest things that I have to go thru. No clothes fit well, my knee hurts and I look like a block of cheese. When I say my prayers at night and pray for patience during this time I usually add "Did I have to get fat on top of everything else"? hahaha - good to know I am not the only one.
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Christina: No cheese????? Really? Ya' just broke my heart.

Thank you all for the motivation...makes me feel like I am living in less of a caregiving "vacuum." I have my treadmill right here in my office, just sitting there and making me feel guilty. So I just have to dust it off and get to it.

I know what you are saying about ailments that prevent you from starting. I have had so many knee and foot problems - but it is due to the weight - vicious circle. I have never been this unhealthy. But this year I am committed to making good changes for myself. I will let you know how it went on Dec. 31st :o)
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Hi Lilli,
I find myself going from eating too many sweets to then depriving myself. I was walking every day 3-5 miles, then I got enflamed nerves in my feet--which is probably stress-related, too--so I have had to stop. I put on my shoes and forced myself the other day, and suffered very badly the next. It's not that I don't want to walk, or eat healthy, or exercise, or lift weights, or be a tea-totaller, but I am weak.
Paul said it best, "The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak". If he couldn't do it, then that's no excuse, but it is a good illustration that we must learn to forgive ourselves, give ourselves a healthy treat whenever we can, and keep trying.
By the way, almost every morning when my Mother wakes up the first time and I take her to the bathroom, clean her up, change her Depends, put powder on her to feel better, change her nightgown, give her before breakfast meds and all the water she wants, then put her back to bed, I tell her, "We'll get up in a while. First, I need to do a few things for myself." I mean, get a cup of uninterrupted coffee, walk outside to look at my garden, feed the cat, set things up for her breakfast, and sometimes just sit and watch the news for a moment. She gets that look on her face, and sometimes says, "what about me?" But, I have just done more for her than I do for myself in a day, and it can't be all about her, all of the time. I KNOW THAT. SHE DOESN'T. I do what I need to do, when I need to do it, and I do not like listening to her incessant whining first thing in the morning, but that's how she is now. (The new med, Zyprexa, is helping a lot! She is more positive and calm, but she is having a hard time finding the right words.)
Bottom line on diet, in my experience: eat lots of protein: tuna, sardines, turkey, chicken breast, lots of fresh greens, no dressing just lemon juice and a bit of olive oil, don't eat bread, rice or pasta, have a baked potato once in a while with salsa or chili, but no butter, sour cream, or cheese, eat a cup of vegies at lunch and dinner with your salad and protein, (don't eat cheese !!!) no alcohol, or maybe just one glass :) eat berries for dessert, eat fruit in the morning, no extra sugar, drink lots of water, about 90 ounces a day. Every morning I start out with that mind set--some days it works, other days I fail. Then I try again:) Love, Christina
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Since I been looking after mom for the last 2yrs I have gained 50lbs+ carrying that extra weight is making me more exhausted than ever. I "graze" all day long. When mom has bad nights I eat to say awake. I can't stop. It has became so habit that I don't even realize how much I am eating. I also smoke. I used to be a very light smoker but now I am running outside every little bit for a puff or two. I am smoking a pack a day. Which that is money we don't have. But the stress at times and feelings of being alone, food and cigarettes are my best friend. Taking care of mom, chasing after kids, trying to spend time with husband, doing housework, maintaining an arce+ lawn, cleaning the pool, weeding the flower beds and the garden is all in a days work!!! What makes it even more difficult, my moms house has a finished basement also. Thats where hubby and kids retreat too. My parents made a kitchen as well in the finished basement, so that is 2 kitchens that I have got to cleanup. I feel as though I am cleaning up two households.
My hubby does try. But I get so caught up in my role that I don't appreciate and really don't respect the help. My hubby tries to encourage me to walk on treadmill but I feel insulted. I feel thats his way of saying "hey your fat"
I have no drive to take care of myself and don't know how to fix it!!!!
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good for you rebecca -small steps seems to work well. You are right that we seem tio forget we are of value because we are so busy.stressed
leep up the good work! ♥ Joan
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I started eating badly when my father first went into the hospital a two years ago. I left my teaching job in the afternoon, ate to have energy at the hospital, and then ate to stay awake to drive home and grade papers. Since he passed away, I was exhausted until this summer and ate badly. I have started eating smaller portions, and make better choices at the grocery store. The best part has been walking. The weight has been very slowly coming off but it is coming off. I think my father would expect it of me. We forget we are of value because we are all so busy. Hang in there! Rebecca
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thx Ringo - so had to have that junk food in the house - sounds like a little bit of depression - a real demotivator - I guess the best motivation is just to be the best you that you can be - for your own sake cause you are worth it (((((hugs))))))
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