Hi. Since last March, my grandfather had both his legs removed (separate surgeries). He was admitted to a rehab facility, then a nursing home. He is handling all of his expenses and is making his own arrangements with them. He has told me that he wants me to be his POA, but he has given me every excuse in the book why he didn't "get around" to calling his lawyer. So be it. I'm tired of asking. He prefers to be with his lady friend several hours away. I've called the lawyer myself, but obviously there is nothing I can do as a third party. The request has to come from grandpa.
My problem is, he has listed me as his financial POA with the nursing home and now they are calling me for a very large past-due amount. He's exceeded his 100 days covered by Medicare, and he refuses to follow the advice of the lawyer I paid to settle his finances and move toward Medicaid because his pension and SS help to cover the living expenses of his lady friend (she drives his car, for example). The two of them hope that he will move back into her house and they'll live happily ever after on his money. (she's 80 with her own health problems, by the way).
Am I responsible for that bill? If so, do I have any say in where he lives and can I suggest a cheaper alternative if I'm going to be stuck paying for it? I don't have $12K, and I sure know that he doesn't either. He seems to be in his right mind and coherent, but he's always been very secretive about money (other relatives have been screwed by his mishandling of money). It's extremely difficult to have this conversation with him, so I'm at a loss. Any guidance would be appreciated.