Although the person I care for is verbally abusive and has always been abusive, how do you respond? It gets difficult to smile and continue with your duty. Today she was berating me while I gave her a shower and I snapped. I asked her what gave her the right and that I have given up everything to care for her. She smiled and said I deserved to suffer. I could not walk away because she was in a shower chair. I took several deep breaths asked the Lord to give me strength and continued bathing her. Afterward I asked her why she is kind to my husband and son but, treated my daughter and myself like trash and she again told.me it was my job to do what I was told. What would you do and what can I say? I do not want to disrespect her although I am unsure why I care. I told her today that she would not have to tolerate me much longer because she was on a waiting list to move back into the nursing home and she told.me she had no money and that I couldn't do that. Yes, I realize some of this is age related and I do see early stages of.dementia and yes I know she has mental issues. How and what do you recommend, I appreciate your advice because you understand. Thank you in advance.