In order to have some respite care, should I hire a home health aide or do short term nursing home care?
I booked a cruise two years ago for my family and myself. Since then I have taken in my grandmother, she is a vicious woman. I have a dilemma, do I put her in a nursing home and pay $2800 for a week? I know the care at this facility is the best in the community and she will choose to be miserable anyplace she goes. I actually have her on the waiting list for this facility for fulltime care. Or do I spend $1400, keep her in my home and hire a nursing agency to provide the nursing care she requires. Yes, some of this is about money, as many of you well know from experience. I took a huge paycut. My mother gives us enough to support my grandmother and spends the rest on whatever strikes her fancy. I hate to cancel on my family and I know a lot of you are probably thinking, if you can't afford it you should not have booked it. At the time we were doing well with a nice savings but caring for this woman is draining us dry, emotionally and financially. I am open to any advice and would like to thank you in advance. I really hope I do not sound cruel, if I may. We had booked this cruise 6 years prior and my husband found out he has ulcerative colitis. One year after his 28th surgery we decided our family had worked through life saved the money and needed a break. Now we are poor, depressed and torn about how to care for her, cancel, in home or Nh. Thank you