How do I respect my mother-in-law wishes, of living independently and moving her into assisted living?
My mother in law has Alzheimer's. She wants to live independently. We want to respect that. She has 4 cats that run the house and the house, her clothes all stink. The smell is overwhelming. The family has stopped doing everything with her within the last year. My wife and 2 boys are all allergic to cats. Mom will not move without the cats. Bringing up the topic of moving without the cats it gets her arguing and then she'll say "I will hate you if you make me move without them". She has opened up several times about moving. Stating the neighborhood is lonely now and has changed. Then she starts thinking about the cats and her mode changes to I can't move. We have always done things with her, holiday dinners, taken her to Europe with us for vacation to walks in the botanical gardens. We want to get back to that and see her more often and enjoy the years we have left with her. How do we separate her from the cats and move her?