Is there a type of residence where an aging mother and a partly disabled daughter can live together?
Mother extremely physically able, but has early stage of dementia. Daughter is partly disabled with chronic illness limiting her ability to do much housekeeping or to do much food shopping and prepare healthy meals for two every day. A dinner only situation would be fine. Also, a cook who came twice a week and made nutritional dishes for daughter to warm and serve, with mother's current help, every evening would be good. Mother is now in a retirement facility in area and receives help with having daily medication given to her, which she's not able to manage on her own. However, mother very much dislikes the social requirements of this setting large scale residence where all dine together daily. She would do better in either much smaller facility with daughter, or, in a residence modeled on the Care Cottage idea. Something like a private residential unit or ..... best of all ..... a small unit for mother and one for daughter that are next door, close together or nearby Mother has full coverage insurance for all in-home medical care she will need for remainder of her life. Daughter will be on Medicaid and then Medicare for disabled under 65 (she is 59) and presently receives state disability pension, but would not receive full pension until 65, and will then (theoretically) also receive SS as well. Daughter wants to do this so mother will be more comfortable in her current, presently only mild difficulty dealing with social situations. Mother is actually outgoing person who does have friends in area and would like to continue bowling in the two leagues twice a week she's been in for past 20 or so years (is former, professional bowler, now with bowling average of 170) but has just recently had to give up driving, and is unable to arrange her own transport, and is very frustrated with this, not wanting to have to take expensive cab rides. Mother also needs transport and accompaniment to doctors appointments, which are offered where she lives now, but is expensive and mother dislikes having to go through with strangers. She also receives a great deal of personal happiness by being able to go to hairdresser weekly. Nearby family now are too busy to give her any of this transport either..... so daughter would be able to help mother enormously, as a driver, with this transport so mother can continue these personally rewarding activities as long as she's able. Eventually, it must be assumed mother will need 24 hour home nursing care, which she is covered for by her insurance, as mentioned above, since daughter would not be capable of physical care like bathing, dressing, toileting, feeding, etc. Daughter feels if she can supervise this care, and have established this home setting with mother, mother may be able to avoid having to go to a nursing home altogether, and possibly even have hospice care at home. Once daughter is alone, she will probably not want to continue to live in this home or setting alone, herself. Also, daughter may be able to use some rehabilitation care to increase and maintain strength and endurance after having been too inactive due to chronic health problems living alone in Chicago. Finally, this place does not necessarily have to be in the immediate Lake Worth/ West Palm area at all ..... somewhere even 20 - 50 miles from here would be fine. (Daughter also still -- very tentatively -- considering possibilities of living further north with Mother, as daughter does not like Florida's warm, humid weather, which is difficult on her own health. This could be GA, SC, NC, even VA. Daughter loves living in her city, Chicago, and also considers someplace in Chicago area, probably suburban, she might find a residential situation like this for her and mother, though brother in West Palm area believes this would be complicated. Daughter does not agree.
Thanks so much for your attention to reading this, and any suggestions, information, or extending advice you might be able to offer me, the daughter, Barbara Hunt.