What can I do to protect myself emotionally? Mom is continually doing things to undermine everything I set up to help her. If I set her bills up on autopay, she closes the account. If I call Adult Protective Services to request that they monitor her well-being, she tells them I attacked her (not true!) ... I've been told that I cannot force her to see a doctor, but I believe her symptoms might actually be slowed if she was treated. Her thyroid should be monitored - she was on thyroid medication before the move. I've also been told that I must wait for a "Crisis-Event" in order to step in - they say it will happen, just a matter of time. I just don't know if I can mentally/emotionally handle the stress. I hate to just give up - walk away and let her go down on her own, but she won't let me help her any other way!