My 86 yr old mother lives out of state. She is very sharp and able to get around, the only help she receives is from a neighbor who volunteered to take her to doctor appointments. Recently mothers personality has changed. She calls asking why we took certain documents (we didn't) she is convinced my wife (whom she has always loved) is stealing from her, and tells people that we held her hostage (.... She was ill and came to live with us until she recovered for approx 6 months ), and numerous other things. She will not move in with us permenentally, and she is extremely stubborn (always has been). We fly in to visit her once a month and spoil her like we always have. All her financial needs r taken care of. OK....there was the background... Recently this neighbor who helps out stopped talking to us, next thing we know is that the POA has been given to her. (we were notified by letter from an attorney who has yet to return call). Yesterday I went to log in to my mothers bank account to transfer her some money and pay her bills, but the password and email has been changed. The bank will not talk to me as I am not her. Now I find out that she (the neighbor) has been trying to contact the grandchildren and an ex wife from. 20+ yrs ago to tell them we r abusing the grandmother! The grandchildren laughed at this as they know how much we cherish her. I have tried talking to my mother only to get anger from her. I swear she watches too many court tv shows and thinks we r like those people in them. I am certain the neighbor is behind all of the changes and thing missing in the house. I do not know what to do as my mother says she is comfortable with this neighbor taking care of everything. I really don't know what my next step should be. Any advice or info would be welcomed! Thanks for listening !