When we moved in 3 years ago to care for mother and my step-dad, we gave them $350/month to help on bills and food. When my brother found out that we were doing this, he told my mother we should not be paying her...that she should be paying us. This made her so mad. We stopped giving her this money because my brother thought it was just terrible. I continued to feel guilty and mother would make rude comments about us not helping out. So, we started giving her $200.00/month and we also buy groceries all during the month to help out and buy some foods that my husband and I like. The other day, she told me we weren't helping her enough. Her bank statements always shows an increase in her monthly balance. She is doing financially well. She's 83 and has a very negative dispostion, but she has lots of health problems. We will continue to give her the money because I get tired of her making me feel guilty. What do most people do...pay or not pay their parents?