How do I handle mom's constant calls?
I've brought this up before but things have gotten worse. Mom is in hospice-dementia and terminal cancer. The dementia is worse than the cancer. Actually her body is a lot better and stronger than when she was at home with me. I visit every day and stay for hours, but by the time 5-6 pm rolls around, she forgot that I came. The other night she called me 3x pleading and crying that I come and pick her up to take her home cause she thought that she was dying and wanted me to be with her. My therapist, sister, and the staff at hospice all said the same thing. Do not jump in the car and come to her aid and comfort her. She is alright. True, but her mental state is suffering tremendously Therapist said that even if I stayed for 12 hours every day she would forget by the next day. But my way of viewing it is that even though she forgot that I came one day, for that time span of several hours that I did spend with her made her soooooo happy with ecstacy that it was well worth it for her, even if she did forget by the afternoon. For that span of time, she was happy beyond words, and that makes ME so very happy. But I would like to hear from you men and women who are CG to see what your opinion/advice is. I told hospice to give her the med [that she's already on-maybe increase the dosage] Lorazapam [anti-anxiety/agitation] meds when she gets like that because she truly suffers emotionally and the med will release her from that suffering. Also, should I jump in the car when she is really crying and pleading for me to come over and comfort her? It kills me to hear her voice like that. We hang up, I put my head in my hands in emotional pain, tears and do not know what to do. Please help!!!????