Sort of off topic, but we all seem to be from the U.S. I often wonder how the elderly are cared for by their children in other countries. I think in China traditionally, it is the eldest son or daughter who is expected to carry this burden. And many stories about woeful duties and abuse heaped upon eldest son's WIFE.
Apparently, once the mother-in-law is being cared for by #1 son's family, she feels she has the right to turn in to a demanding monster (at least in the novels and movies I've seen...what kind of story would it make if she were kind and understanding?) I believe, however, that the family inheritance also goes to the son's family.
So, in a way, we who are now caught up in this probably feel isolated and that ours is the first generation to face this. In a way, that's true, cause ours is the first generation to experience more years of relatively healthy seniors, then a dozen years of decline and increasing total dependency. When my grandmothers died, they got sick and were gone in a few months, with a week or two in the nursing home.
If my mother had lived fifty years before, she would have probably died by age 35 of teeth infection, or shortly thereafter of infected gall bladder. OR she would have died at age 80 when her heart failed...valve and artery surgery gave her another dozen years at least.
So, anyone here "from the old country"? What's the situation.