We are facing a very challenging situation. We discovered my Father had brain cancer in December. He was scheduled for open heart surgery in January to repair a valve and anyuerism. Both major surgeries were scheduled 18 days apart. He has been through alot physically. Currently he is in rehab but making very minimal progress. He has mental status changes and has not been ambulatory. Prior to these surgeries he was living independently and driving. Furthermore, we learned the brain cancer is incurable and he has 6-18 months to live with treatment. We have not received clear treatment options from the oncology staff due to some other complications and we are waiting to hear the recommended plan.
I met with social work yesterday; they are preparing me to look for a nursing home in which to place him. We are grieving because the changes have happenned so quickly. He is only 66 years old and was independent up to this point. He is currently not ambulatory and has had a catheter in place for two weeks. We have a family meeting with social work in two weeks to assess his progress and care.
My heart is sad and I'm concerned he would lose his home if we place him in a nursing home but I'm not sure if we could care for him adequately ourselves with outside home care help. Any advice or direction would be appreciated?