Now that the 81-year old MIL has moved in across the street, the neighbors are getting into our business - how do I handle them?
We have been here 2-1/2 years, she has been on the block for about 6 weeks. We keep to ourselves and don't know any of our neighbors more than on a neighborly level. Since she has moved in, two neighbors in particular go over to her house constantly and offer to do chores, mow lawns, etc. They are both retired married men with their own homes to take care of. She lets them do some things, but has hired help for most of it, which she had long before she moved here. Yesterday one of the neighbors approached me and said he had been fixing her sprinkler for the second time. I just smiled and said don't get in over your head. He pointed his finger, shaking it at me and said I need to spend more time over there. I am so angry - he has no idea what we do! We had total peace and quiet and now we've got accusatory neighbors thinking we are neglecting the poor little old lady. I didn't even know what to say other than we both work full time jobs and are raising children still. We do go over there several times a week and do all sorts of things. Sometimes we are over there several times a day doing errands, watering plants, moving furniture, getting things off tall shelves and you name - and just yesterday when this went down, my husband was fixing her car in our garage. I am beside myself. I asked her what she had been telling the neighbors and she simply said to ignore them. My daughter says she was over there when this particular neighbor was at my MIL's house and he was going around pointing out things she needs done in her yard and saying your son should be doing this, why isn't your son over here, I never see your family over here. The nerve! Is he watching her house all hours? I don't know why this is bothering me so much except for the fact that when we do say no to her, she goes into a tantrum and says we never help her and will act like a victim, so I don't know what to believe. I knew her moving across the street would have it's issues, but I never imagined that the neighbors would be butting in like that. How do I handle them? I just want peace and not have anyone in my business.