My sister and I are the only family that he has and we are part of the "sandwich generation." I live 160 miles away and am handling his finances and calling about things and my sister is getting burned out taking care of him as much as she can. He lives alone and neither of us are able to take him in. He has declined rapidly, forgetting his grand daughter's name, forgetting about my husband of 20 years and took a 16 hour road trip so we took away his keys. He is lonely, doesn't have an acute diagnosis but we will be getting that from Rush memory clinic at the end of this month. But right now we are stuck. We can't let him live alone, but he makes too much money ($1230 a month) to qualify for assistance.