My grandmother is begging. My grandfather is semi-resistant most days. He has Alzheimers and she can no longer care for him 24/7. It is not so advanced he wanders off, just advanced enough he can sometimes not recall where we are when we are out. But he is mean spirited, defensive, and demanding, unlike his normal self. She could not care for their large home alone but is more afraid she will pass away and leave him here knowing he cannot handle his own care or the home.
My grandparents basically raised me. Specifically my grandmother.
I live 1100 miles away with my husband. We are seriously discussing moving across the country to live on the second floor of their home (basically an apartment, it has 2 large bedrooms, a den, a full bath).
We have talked about buying a home down here or renting, but they actually want in-home care.
Is this the right thing to do? Will we regret it? How do I know what is the right choice?