Is it wise to start all over again?
I am at my wits end!! I keep trying everything but Im not getting anywhere. I am the sole caregiver for my mother who lives with me. My 2 siblings do nothing to help and did nothing to help when she lived home alone. My middle sister has not called her or me since she has been here for 3 months, and the younger sister calls maybe once a week so her 2 year old, 1 year old twins and 13 year old can talk to her. When she does does speak with her its always about a problem she has and when mother gets off the phone she is upset and worried. My mother has dementia and I'm not conmfortable leaving her home while I go to work. I dont have a car so Id be gone over 11 hours a day. I have Fmla but I have no paid time left. I have a very close friend in Washington State who wants me to move there and she will help me get started finding a job, and house. I did find an Adult day care for my mom to go 2 days a week. I know she does not like it but I need to have a little break and she needs to get out and move around. We are living off her income a month and that is driving me crazy because 2 people cant live off $2100 a month! I will be 56 this month and I dont want to be caught up just living day to day and getting sicker myself. Right now I cant even get my medicine. I have HB, PAD and CAD. I just want to take my little bit 4o1K money move and start a whole new life. I live in Baltimore and I hate it here. If it were just me I would pack up and haul a- -! But my mom, do I try to take her once I find a place or do I just find an assisted living home and place her close to my sisters. My fear is they will not call or visit often and she will go down hill fast. She does not not really want to be here but she knows she cant stay alone and at least she has one of her children. I just want some insight from a few of my fellow caregivers. I had no idea caregiving would be this hard!!! You really no longer have your own life.