My dad has dimentia but still knows names, where he is, and drives, although he is forgetful and has a hard time retaining information. My mother-in-law is ready for assisted living but he wants to stay in his spacious home. She has been trying to get him declared medically incompetent and we have been told she did accomplish this. My brother and his wife just came into town and made a plan with the mother-in-law to find an assisted living home and without telling dad just bringing him there when it is ready, dropping him off and just saying you live here now. They will also take away his vehicle at this time. Is this the proper way to handle this?