My mother lives with my husband and myself. She has her own room and her own bathroom full of shampoos and soaps and lotions as well as a ton of washrags. It has been a month since her last bath. Her hair is smelly and hasn't been washed in months literally. She says that she takes sponge baths but I know that she doesn't because the soap and shampoo are never used. I do the laundry and she never has any towels or rags for me to wash. Help. I don't want to hurt her feelings but something has got to give. She is totally mentally alert and walks with a walker. I got her in the tub once a month ago when she moved in with me and my husband. We love her dearly but can't put up with her not being clean. What do we do?
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My Parent Won’t Shower or Change Clothes. What Should I Do?
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