How do I get my 90 year old mother to live her own life instead of mine?
I'm an only child. When my father died in 2006 she put me in his place as her "staff". She expects me to do as she directs, live where she wants and order my life and my husband's to fit her wishes. This has been a lifelong issue. She simply sees me as an extension of herself and refuses to grow up and make her own decisions. She 'tells' me what to do so she is never to be responsible for outcomes good/bad. I'm 66 an tired of her negativity, clinging and taking over all areas of my life. HELP!