What do I tell my mother when she says no one calls or visits her?
My mother is in an assisted living residence located in the same town as my brother. She is well taken care of, happy, and feels she is in the best place possible for her situation.
When I call her on the phone (I live 1500 miles away) she often tells me that she never sees my brother or his wife, and that no one ever calls her or comes to see her. I know that she receives regular calls from family and friends, but she adamantly refuses to believe that anyone calls her.
I feel awful that she thinks that my brother and I have abandoned her and that we never call or visit. She often says that she forgets things because one day is the same as the next, and that there is no one for her to talk about her old life. I use her reasons for forgetting things as part of the reason she is forgetting that people do call and visit, but she insists that she would never forget calls and visits because they are so important. I purchased a journal and left it in her room for my brother, sister-in-law to sign when they come, but they refuse to use it.
Is this just my issue, should I feel badly about the fact that she feels abandoned? What can I do to help her remember, or should I let it go?