My sister is nice enough to care for mom every so often so i can get a break, but mom bulldozes her and now my sister doesn't want to help. What can I do?
This past weekend, Mom's Depend was only changed once and her feet weren't cared for at all. Mom wouldn't let her help. Also, when my sister took Mom to her house so that she could get some laundry done, my Mom threw a fit and my sister brought her back home.
I've scheduled Visiting Angels to send a caregiver every other weekend so that my husband and I can have a few hours away. At one point, my sister said it would be helpful if I could get someone during the day when we take long weekends so that she could go to work so I have scheduled that with the service.
Unfortunately, when I updated the family about Mom's antics this morning after my weekend away and the trouble Mom caused my sister, my sister seems to have gotten her nose out of joint and now she says she didn't have a bit of problem with her and the weekend went smooth so she doesn't understand why I would have a problem with her. (What happened to the reality of the feet and the Depends?) Now my sister doesn't like the idea of the service.
Luckily, I am the 24x7 caregiver and the one in charge of the relationship with the service and I will use them no matter what because I need the respite. But oh my goodness!