What to do when Mom can't make decisions?
I just returned from a vacation? Visiting my mom in California, I live in Texas. The WHOLE time was spent discussing, hashing and rehashing Mom's current declining condition of advanced Parkinson's, she has has two strokes that we know of, fallen numerous times, this last fall she struck her head on the tub and broke a rib. She is blind due to Macula degeneration and cataracts and hard of hearing. Mobility is totally reliant upon motorized wheelchair.
My brother 51 lives with her. Thankfully he was called back to work full-time after being unemployed for 1yr.
My sister comes in on Mon,Wed,Fri at 12noon until 2pm. The rest of the time Mom is alone.
There are NO services for help due to Calif. budget nightmare.
All of us, Mom, sister, brother and myself decided I would talk with my family(which I have and they are completely onboard) with Mom coming to live with us in Texas. There are services here available that are not in Calif. Financially we can provide here.
When I left I set a time limit until July 31st deadline for non-changeable decision of "yes" or "no" she is coming to live with us. See I have done this and got everything set up only to have her back out at last minute. I won't do this again.
Even now AGAIN she is wavering. We have beaten this poor dead horse all we can.
Short of her falling and becoming hospitalized forcing the issue of a nursing home...there is nothing I can fathom as an answer.
I came home so emotionally and mentally drained and exhausted.
My sister has the Durable Power of Attorney for medical decisions. But how does a child enforce that on their parent? The responsibility is cruel.
I feel so guilty because when you think of it, it would almost be better that she fall forcing the whole hospital/nursing home issue.