My 87 yr. old mother asked me to come into her home and help her as her physical abilities are declining. I gave up my home, job, friends to be there for her. This is way more difficult than I had ever dreamed. She throws up to me daily that I should get a job (Itell her this is my new job) and proceeds to list the way that she is putting a roof over my head etc. She wants nothing changed in her life or home. She has 2 bedrooms but I sleep on the couch so that nothing is moved. I am not to bring anything into the house bc it might change something.. I am loosing my mind just sitting and waiting for her to tell me my next move... If I try to suggest an outing or something fun for us to do, I am being "bossy".. please help!!