Does anyone miss the person they were caring for before they need care? I miss my "real" husband.

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my husband had his right leg amputated below the knee. he is very weak and has diarrea for about the past week before that he was throwing up. i work to support us and when i come home for lunch all i can do is clean him and feed him and give him the insulin shots. he is a diabetic. he is so wonderful but i cannot find the mind of the man i fell in love with i find him sometimes but then his mind slips away. he is so weak from the surgeries. i had to call the fire dept to take him in the house in the wheelchair. i thought he was going to die before i got him home. i love him but i am the only one taking care of him and i am working and i am so tired. i drink alot of coffee to stay awake. no one understands how hard it is.

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so sorry - try americas funneist videos - play his favorite music or movies - at lunch take him outside- my mom was at brothers never went ouside - she loves it - dementia 79 yrs. old. for yourself - get crock pot put meat in it - pork, chicken put on low (or a roast) winco has dehydrated mashed potatoes 1.00 a lb- - it helps to make dinner easier for yourself- read him the bible if he likes that - so sorry for your pain
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I miss my best friend, who happens to be my Mom, yvonne. Yes, I sure do understand, including the diabetes care and complications. Sorry about your tough caregiving circumstances, yvonne. I find that tears are very healing, as is taking a nap whenever I can do so. It's the little things sometimes, that have a restorative effect. Round-the-clock care is tough. I choose to do it, but it is not a walk in the park. Never will be, and not likely to get any easier for either of us. Each night, I stop to look at the night sky, and each morning, I enjoy quiet moments looking at the radiance of the day's new sunshine. Those are moments of respite I will never relinquish. It's the little things. You are doing your best. Don't think otherwise, ok? Hugs.
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I miss my mom terribly. We use to talk 7-10 times a day, just shooting the breeze. Now I can hardly understand what she is saying. We use to keep secrets, (or so I thought so) and we use to laugh so very much. We would sit on the front porch for long hours and just talk. She's always been my best friend. We would go have lunch, dinner, go to concerts, plays, movies, and we both love music so we'd watch all AMA's Grammy's, etc. and call one another after each act.
Now she can hardly concentrate.

I miss what I use to have and I barely know the frame that I have now. It's a sad thing the way a desease can take control of one's body and cause such a turn around.

Still we go on and hope anc continue to remember what we had and we keep on loving just as we always have.
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Yes, I miss Mom so very much
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yvonne.. he is still the man you married. hes in there!! it takes time after a hospital visit. its a 24 hour thing.. you rarely sleep.. in a hospital that is.. once you get him on a good schedule and hes getting better, he'll come around more and more. but yes, the first few weeks is really hard.. appreciate those moments and hold them close those times before he "slips away"..

..and we are all here for you when you need to talk!!! about anything you need or want to talk about!!

best wishes
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