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If his doctor has told him not to drive and he still drives, he is risking other lives as well as his own. Research stories whereby this has been the case and go over these situations with him, but have "back up" transportation set up. Get with a home health company that will drive him and escort him when he needs to go out. He may just find a new best friend. It will cost for these services, but the trauma of hurting himself or others is dreadfully profound and has lasting impacts on all who are affected by his negligence and denial.
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Hey there Vele,
in the short term, snag a spark plug wire and disable the car.
sounds draconian but it can save his life or someone else's.
Good luck and keep coming back to this great site!
lovbob
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My dad has forgotten that he hasnt driven for a year but tells people that he still drives. We just recently made a new set of car keys for him to keep in the cupboard for him. (they dont work) His car has a computer chip in the key but the ones we made did not have one. It opens the doors and that about it. We just tell him that there must be problems and we will get it fixed and then he forgets. It has worked good so far.
Good luck!
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If his doctor has told him he should not drive, have him/her write this on a prescription. Best if you can have a second doctor do this. Send both to the State Department of Motor Vehicles. They will demand that he take driving tests. Assuming that he will fail, he will be notified to return his license to the state. In the meantime, hide the keys. If he should find them as in mom's case, my brother yanked the battery cable and distributor cap. Speak to an attorney about POA over finances, so the car can be sold when your parent loses his license. My mom's car was in my name as I had bought it for her. An attorney told me to get the car out of my name. In case she had another accident, no one could sue me. I had POA over finances. I put the car in her name, and when she lost her license, I was able to sell the car. I notified her of that after it was done.
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Excellent suggestions.
I am including a link to an article here for more suggestions:
www.AgingCare.com/112307
This article also contains links within it to other relevant information.
Keep in mind that DMV laws do vary by state; however, you should contact yours to find out local laws.
Best of luck, and thank you for being a concerned caregiver.

Dani
AgingCare.com Editor
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I wrote this post a minute ago for similar situation: Noone wants to be the bad guy or girl. I am the bad one to my Mother now and probably forever, but I live in peace knowing she is safe and out of harms way. I learned from experience "you gotta do what you gotta do" but there are ways to relieving yourself as the bad one. For example give her the keys back ... while she is unaware also disconect the battery so car does not start or..not the correct ones but on same key ring... so she thinks they are hers. Instead of you being the bad one when she thinks the car wont work you'll be the one helping with errands and she has to give you control, so it turns it all around. It worked for my Mom with the house keys, she was always asking me for them "its my house my keys" she was right. So I gave her a phoney set, she was happy. It is a mental thing if she has the keys she's won her independance but if the car doesn't work it solves the driving issue. I always said to myself "would I let a 2 year old do that?" Would you feel guilty if a 2 year old wanted to drive? No it would be for thier own protection!
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As tough as this sounds, can you contact his insurance company and ask them to help you? They can be the "bad guys" instead of you. Good luck!
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We just went through this. My father-in-law caused an accident due to his poor response time. We contacted the officer doing the accident report and asked him to submit a Florida Medical Reporting Form. We also had his primary care physician do the same, this way you're not the "bad guy". It took a couple of months, but he received a letter requiring him to retake the driving test. He failed the written test miserably.

Unfortunately, that isn't the end of the story. Despite everyone telling him he shouldn't be driving and the fact that the assisted living facility takes him where he needs to go, he wants to retake the test. We could let him do that, but if he passes then we'll be back to the beginning, so it looks like we'll have to be the "bad guys" anyhow.

Suggestions would be welcome.
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There may be some free transportation from your local Senior Citizen Center or Community Center. Some Senior Facilities also offer free transportation to doctor's appointments as well. You can contact you local Area On Aging and request information as well.
Blessings
Bridget
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It is probably one of the hardest things we had to deal with, it was as if we were taking his identity. Not unless his doctor is willing to notify the state of the issues. You can try convincing your parent to volunterily take a driving test. My dad got 3 tries. first one he drove into o-comming trafic, second one the insturctor had to grab the wheel before he backed into a car. we took his truck and he threateded to have me arresested for steeling it. we got so desperate we disconnected the starter.
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