Is it legal or ethical for a nurse practitioner to accept gifts from patients that are dying and/or who have passed away?

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Gifts such as homes, vehicles or money.

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If the patient is still alive, it would be unethical. If the patient has passed and named their medical person as beneficiary in a Will , it would not be unethical. However the Will could be challenged in court by the decedent's children if they were left out of the Will.
It might be technically legal, but it's massively unethical and definitely going to breach professional guidelines. So no. And you might remind her about Harold Shipman, who didn't get caught until he forged a patient's will.
Pam Stegman makes a good point about the possibility of being a beneficiary: there would be nothing necessarily wrong with a legacy. But the OP cites major items, and "patients" plural, and one has to wonder how many specially close relationships this practitioner can have forged with her patients.
Aside from legal or ethical considerations, I feel that giving money to a nurse practitioner is insulting to their professional status.
You,should go,to the nursing site called allnurses and ask , I'm a RN and it's unethical to accept any gifts at anytime ,,, people will buy our unit a pizza and that's as far as it goes now if they buy you a pizza 🍕 or cookies or shower gel ok but usually nothing else ..no money no big gifts ..you can be turned into the board and lose your license ...
ohmeowzer -- Thanks for posting. You've validated my feeling that one should not give gifts to professionals like RNs. Purrr.
Been doing social work many years. People have a tendency to want to show their appreciation to those extending efforts on their behalf. We try to consider the ethics as well as the feelings of those we serve. So while we put forth all efforts to discourage gifting, we tolerate items of the most minimal values like candy or baked goods etc, and state in writing to our clients that tipping is not allowed, and if one wants to show appreciation they can donate to our (non-profit) agency or to the staff appreciation fund where all staff who contribute to our helping others goals can be included. Donations of this sort are minimal if at all. Most ethical people would not accept any gifts. We have seen some sticky situations and do our best to guard against them. I still recall the person who passed on her old sewing machine to her home aide...because she was going to put it out at the curb anyhow...and then she wanted the aide to do some mending for her. It almost always backfires. By the same token, if someone cares so much and is so insistent as to include a gift in a will, assuming that is an unmanipulated will, I say it should happen, because that was the person's will...to gift a person that way regardless of professional standards. It is honoring their wishes. Some people may not have family they can leave valuable items to, and the caregivers become their family. Or if there is family, the person left the item can always turn it back to them or donate it to a charitable source. But I'd say that was their own choice.
My older sister gave a visiting nurse to our mom's home a $15 tip! The following week this nurse came with her husband because mom "was so nice". Totally unethical!!! I couldn't find out the nurse's name or I would have turned her in. After this "husband and nurse visit" mom had jewelry missing. What a shame!
I find this attitude of blame and assumed harm to be extremely oppositional and prejudiced.

A case where cold uniformity is expected to be preferable to warmth and humanity, as if being "professional" is to minimize the value of those.

It is a case of standards for one part of a profession are applied with such a blind prejudice towards other parts, set up totally differently.

Yes, in a setting with interchangeable professionals, it makes no sense for an ill person to gift one of them. Yes there is a vulnerability and potential for time of life change of plan - and family are the key relationship, yet in today's and fragmented rushed world where so many drugs are given as routine practice, it can be harder to retain relationships of meaning with relatives who become "visitors" - not actively involved in daily care.

Difficult choices and realities, but interchangeable caregivers do not represent not the whole picture, and I cry for the people who DO spend extensive time helping one particular patient over years at times - only to be set aside by that person's family and by their own profession, who also do not know the patient as they work hard to do.

I believe any gifts should be given openly; I was left money in a will after 3 years of being lead home caregiver for an elderly man with one daughter who lived across the country.   I lived in his home for half the week, the other caregivers the other half.  Yes, money managers should be involved.  The other 2 caregivers also received monetary gifts in the will, proportionate to their time and roles.

My interest, ingenuity, life wisdom, humor, and close monitoring of details and shifting adaptations as his needs, strength and care options evolved - so that I noticed and caught up with errors of professionals even, who arrived part time, and thus did not focus on follow through care by using observation, they only asked him and checked their records, but patients are not always strong self advocates - someone alert and familiar helps.

A few times, I saved the man's life and certainly his comfort, brought him to all MDs, and drove him through the area to renew old relationships. Nobody expected him to live more than a few months but he lived 3 more years, and in that time, he also made up with several cut-off family relationships, which I worked deliberately to support. The relationship was positive, and I considered my professionalism not in choosing to remain distant, but in putting the trends in my patient's health first, and making sure I communicated about any changes or options.

When I placed my youngest brother in a rural environment, after taking him from home but seeing that he felt lost in the urban setting where I lived, I managed his care from a distance. And I was totally relieved and grateful to find someone whose attitude towards care was more familial and human in nature, than providing lists of services. Standards on paper might be fine in brief stays in a hospital, or for people who have caring families nearby.

They are sorely lacking for anyone who does not - but few plans are made in healthcare to support ongoing prevention and support, to prioritized stable, close attention for those with those with distant families.

For many elders, it is possible to leave them with a bank account, with limited funds in it. That way, they can pay for some odd gifts or to get their hair done - and tip the hairdresser as usual, without risking their whole legacy.  Any later gift in a will, can get family approval, again, within the limit of a certain range or % of what is available.

The professional conversation needs to move beyond the one-size-fits all throwing around of cautions that overlook the criteria of steady human relationships, and teach families to learn to know caregivers better, instead of analyzing the whole care process with a traditional economic focus, and assumptions based on outdated memories, always in the lead. The world needs to value and support human attention, not legal battles.
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My Dad asked me before his finals days to please remember his two caregivers who had been with him for over a year..... as the caregivers were outstanding, patient, and always brought a smile to Dad's face every day... plus they would bring in balloons and small gifts for my Dad for his birthday, Christmas and for any holidays.   Christmas 2015 I gave them both, plus other semi-regulars, Target gift cards but first I checked with their Agency, it was ok.

Thus, after Probate is finished, I will forward checks to these two wonderful Caregivers.   Since my Dad is no longer their client, I feel it is ok to do this.

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