i cant seem to get a straight answer-no one seems to know how to deal with this without adding to her dementia and health problems.i am very frustrated and angry. i feel like i want to scream and yell at these doctors-her primary, here at home and the ones inMass. at the jewish geriatric nursing home-where she was taken2daysafter surgery to thatnursing home 4 hours away ,isolated,and no one there thatsheknows.i cant get a satisfactory answer to basic questions- and i find i dont get a real report of whats going on, when i finally do get to speak with someone from the staff. i get this rosy, phoney,oh shes doing fine-obviously incorrect answers-like i am some idiot or they are idiots- or they just want to get me off the phone.this has been driving me crazy- its gotten worse since my brotherwas given complete POA-and has been an a@#!!!!!!i havetried to accept the fact thatit iswhat it is- however last nite i found out that she has had thisfistula since shearrived,and has been subjected to being changed and wiped every 2 hours-which is sopainful since she is sore- i never knew this- i cant believe that nothing is being done-she screams and fight every time sheis changed, there has to be a better way- i dont think she is getting proper care-maybe nothing can be done-but atleast they can give her something forpain- and not haldol-which she is on 3 times a day- im just disgusted and dont knowwhat to do. if anyone has any ideas, or words of wisdom, please send them this way- i think i am ready to collapse!!!!