How can I keep my Mother out of the rooms in my parents home that I pay rent for so I my son and I can take care of them?
My Mother is becoming very invasive of the space that I pay monthly rent for, and that is our only space available in the house that we can get away from her constant picking. Really, at the moment, my son's room is mostly the problem. She went into his room while I was asleep and started to clean and make his bed. He is 20 years old and well able to take care of himself and considers the space, as I consider mine to be my home within their home.
Really, I think my parents should consider themselves lucky to have us her to take care of them. Otherwise, they would have to sell the home they have been living in for the past 25 years and move into a part-time progressive care facility that would devistate their finances, and take my father's wood shop away from him. He builds furniture, and other art/craft items that make him very happy. My Mother is mostly the problem, she is progressing through Alz/Dem. and it is becoming more difficult to control her. When I deem it necessary, I will make an appointment with her Dr.(with Dad's permission and have her medications (which I totally control) adjusted to try to alleviate some of her symptoms.
It is difficult to be in the house with her 24/7. My dad, who is 80 is still working in the summer, and I will not leave her here in the house alone for fear of her setting the place on fire. She has already almost done it twice, and we have forbidden her to use the stove unless someone else is present in the house to supervise. Eventually, if I have a situation where I must leave her alone, I will shut the breaker to the stove off so she cannot use it to protect the property.
At this point I do not have a POA for either of them, but the time has arrived that this must be done. I have two brothers in the area that visit around once a week (it's intermittant, but I've expressed to them AGAIN that they need to visit more often and help with things around the house.
I am disabled myself with Frbromyalgia, COPD and Chronic Cyclic Depression, a bout of which I'm attempting to deal with right now, but it isn't easy watching my parents fade away every day, but I signed up for this and I'm gonna complete it come hell or high water.
Anyway, how, short of calling the police again to have this explained to her, can I keep her from entering our rooms.
OH, BTW, she'll clean his room and thow other stuff into mine! Go figure.
I've written here before and gotten many good suggestions on how to deal with these situations.
Anyone got any suggestions to help short of putting a lock on my door because they do need access to me in case they need help.