I've given up everything for my parents and I'm worried that if I continue dealing with all their problems then my life is going to go down the toilet. What options do I have?
I'm miserable and on the brink of losing it. I've given up everything for my parents and all they've done is sabotage me.
My mom needs to move out of her town home because they won't renew her lease, but I can't find another place for her to go because of her poor credit score. She gets home health care but Medicaid only pays for so much and it's not enough. I've tried to convince her to go to a nursing home, but she just yells at me every single time no matter how I approach the topic. I quit my internship and moved back to the town that she lives in to deal with all this, and nothing's been working. I don't know if I should just abandon her or what. I'm at the point where I just don't care to wake up anymore. Her health and behavior issues have been causing me issues for over a year now and I'm ready to get my life back because I haven't been happy in a year.
I've reached out to every resource and government agency. You name it, and I have called them. South Dakota has very limited resources for people in difficult situations, and it's ruining my life. I am hoping her home health company quits and she admits herself into the hospital because she has no care at home and then the hospital will have to find a place for her to go because it's near impossible to admit my mom to a nursing home in this area without a bunch of referrals.
I am absolutely miserable and I just want to give up. I don't want to be the kid that shoves her parents into a nursing home to get rid of them but at this point all I want to do is get rid of my parents. My dad has no behavior issues but I'm worried that once he goes to the nursing home he's going to fight to get out despite his awful memory issues due to Wernicke's Korsakoff syndrome. I probably spend 10 to 20 hours a week working for my parents for free with insurance companies, the bank, Medicaid, and anything else they need that I can do with my power of attorney. I have found that they're pretty helpless without me, but I just want to be a normal 21 year old.
Do you think that if I just abandon them the state will take over? I'm worried that if I continue dealing with all their problems that my life is going to go down the toilet, and I'll end up with mental health issues just like my mom.