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When my grandma died, we couldn't believe how many old ladies came out of the woodwork after my grandpa. Apparently there is a great demand for decent old men. Who knew?
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How old is this person?

How mobile and on top of things are they?

My aunt is in her late 70ties and her husband who was 80 died in August after being married for over 50 years. She has plenty of activities to keep her busy and now manages the 4 farms which her husband managed for his mother's estate plus children and grandchildren both nearby and out of state. She lives in the family "big house" (gone with the wind era type residence) which surprises my mother. Each widow or widower must find their own way, but they also don't need their adult children trying to fix life for them unless they are that needy. I'm not sure there is really a one answer fits all.
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It really depends some of the men at our senior group have female friends but not many-most of the widows do not-I did not at first but now would love to have someone to share conversations with-I would not get married again-the ones who do not seem happier most keep their own home. Some people are miserable being alone-I want a friend but need my space also but I did not have a happy marriage so I probably feel different-I thing a person sould wait a while and learn to be happy single for a while.
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I was referring to an elderly parent. How soon after should survivor be left alone? One thought is to have survivor travel to stay with a child for a week or more before being alone. Another view is to have survivor be alone a few days before travel..otherwise confronting the aloneness after returning?
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It depends on you I had trouble accepting someone I know for wanting to find someone I thought it was terrible he started looking about 6 months but now over a year later after the husband died I am feeling loney and have gone on a dating site I really only want a friend at this point and would never remarry but would like someone who was kind to me -I did not have that in my marriage and my son realizes this-I have many women friends but would like a casual friendship with a man who wants to spend time with me and cares how I am and wants to share our lives. Most of my friends who had a good marriage do not need this but I do.
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Only you know your heart and what's best for you. Maybe go for companonship first, most seniors nowadays in your situation will not marry but live together so that they're Social Security benefits don't change. It's a big step and you need to look at all sides. Be careful of what papers you might sign as a couple. I hope I don't offend you by offering the live in solution. I'm divorced and me and my boyfriend stay together but I still own my home, when we argue, I just go home so it doesn't become an issue. Good luck.
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I guess it would depend on who you're talking about. Are you talking about yourself or a parent? And what age are we talking about? My mother-in-law was 83 when her husband died, but she was used to being alone most nights because he had worked swing shift for 40 years so it was not that big of a deal to her. It was the weekends that killed her off more than anything. She couldn't drive because of her eyes, so she was a prisoner in her own home till we intervened getting her out whenever possible. Or are you talking about getting married again? I have a friend in my Bible study that just lost her husband suddenly this year. She told us that she will never fault someone who gets married right away after their spouse dies. She said that unless you have walked in their shoes, you don't know how lonely it can get coming home to an empty house. So without more info, I'm not much help. sorry.
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