How do we protect ourselves or learn to endure attacks from mom?
We are going on one plus years post LBD diagnosis for mom. While the two of us that are with her the most have learned to avoid, or shrug off the verbal attacks, and develop thick skins, others in the family get quite wounded or frustrated. This certainly does not make them want to see her more often. It's so sad. The very persons she wants to see the most are the ones she drives away. It's like she waits to attack them. We were making and helping create opportunities for family events, but mom has done some real damage to the most compassionate family members, those that really do love and miss her. Some say they are done with this. Some have never been back. Is this how it ends up? One by one people get driven away? We have learned a few stategies, never leave her alone with one person, keep visits short, have a quick escape plan because it's usually the end of the visit that goes bad.