Can a caregiver ever truly relax?
I have been my mother's caregiver for the past year. In this time, I have changed. I look awful, don't sleep, have lost contact with friends and family. I have a worry/ guilty feeling all the time. The good news is that I have a wonderful husband, very good back up help for her during the day when I am at work, and people who I can talk to. Is there something wrong with me? Why isn't that enough? When I do get a chance to get away, all I do is worry. When I am with her, she accuses me of being conrtolling and demanding. We fight all the time because she alwys feels like I am ordering her around. She cannot take her medication on her own, never knows the days, looses her money and bills, has let herself go. She never gets out, watches TV all day. She is critical of others and is not willing to do anything to help herself. She is 77 years old and in ok physical health but I am concerned because she gets NO exercise what so ever, eats primarily junk food and does nothing for her mind. She watches talk shows and reality TV all day and all night. I worry about this constantly because I fear she will only get worse if she doesn't do anything to help herself. I am obsessed with trying to come up with ways to get her to want to help herself. I am convinced that she is very depressed and that she needs to see a psychiatrist. She is currently on Cymbalta for depression and Arcipt for her memory issues, She has been diagnosed by a neurologist as having beginning stage dementia. Is it too late? Is there anything at all I can do to get her to cooperate? Will I ever feel happy or peaceful again????