Can I help my parents to agree on long term care?
What happens when your parents don't agree on the course of action that should or will be taken about their long term care? My father (91) wants to make sure that if something happens to either of them they will be taken care of and even more important if something happens to my mom (89) he will have a plan because he doesn't drive and has trouble seeing and hearing and relies on my mom for daily cooking etc. My mother doesn't want to discuss it. She is steadfast against moving to assisted living on the grounds that they can't afford it and she, (her words) "doesn't want to give up doing the things she still can do". They are both in relatively good health for the ages and currently live in an apt. that is NOT senior friendly or equiped. As for her argument that they can't afford AL, I'm not sure they can but I'm not sure we have a choice. I have been looking into VA benefits but that's like chasing your tail and at 91 you never know if my dad is going to be around long enough to collect. I'm not sure how to reslove this issue.