I am my Father's caregiver and I live 150 miles away. His dementia is getting worse and he is at the stage now where he hates everyone and everything. I just feel lost as I feel like I should be doing more for him but don't know what. What can I do?
I am married and live 150 miles away from my Father. I am his CPOA and his only caregiver. I have Friendly Visiting go to visit him once a week and a lady who comes in to clean once a week. I usually go once a week to see him but it is a 4 hour drive there and 4 hours back which only gives me about 4 hours with him and that includes getting his Ensure and a few groceries in and a little housework. I talk to him at least 2 hours a day. His dementia is getting worse and he is at the stage now where he hates everyone and everything. It takes all my willpower not to yell at him. He has all his finances in order as far as I am concerned. I am his CPOA, I am joint with him on his house and Bank Account. I just feel lost as I feel like I should be doing more for him but don't know what. I work part-time (5 days a week) and some weeks I cannot get down to see him. My husband will not drive there on the weekends and I do not drive. We do not have any children but I just got out from 7 weeks of cancer treatment last July 2009 and I still get tired very easily. Does anyone feel as helpless as I do and feel like I should be doing a lot more. My husband said maybe I should quit my job (which I love) and stay with him 3 days a week and come back home for 4. I have thought about this but I think he would drive me crazy. The couple of times I have stayed overnight he has kept me up all night wanting to talk and I am used to 9 hours sleep. I just don't know what to do.