My 86 year-old- mom with dementia cries all day and says "please help me." We have tried some medications but nothing has worked. What can we do for her?

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When I ask her what is wrong or what I can do to help her, she says she doesn't know. She says she just feels like crying and can't stop. She continually asks for her mother. We've tried risperdal, buspar, trazodone, and haldol but nothing has a lasting effect and mostly makes things worse. I talk with her and she tries to calm down but can't for longer than a minute or so. I'm at a loss for what to do. If anyone has found a medication to help a similar situation or another solution, I'd love to know.

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Have him evaluated by a geriatric psychiatrist.
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My father is 85 years old and has dementia. He cries a lot when he and my mother are alone. In his mind he thinks she is going to leave him. Nothing seems to calm him down. Any suggestions?
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My heart really does go out to you. It must be terrible for you. And for her. Yikes. Have you spoken with her doctor? Can you distract her? Folding laundry works for mom. I've washed socks four times a day sometimes to keep her supplied with something to focus on.

Keep talking with the doc, There's GOT to be something.

A thought. Sometimes dementia patients can't express pain. Is it possible she's uncomfortable? Have you tried plain old pain medicine? If you haven't, I'd sure give it a try. Hydrocodone w/acetaminophen...mild dosage. It 's worth a try.
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Sometimes it could be the side effect of medicines, you will need to narrow down what one it is. I remember decades ago I couldn't stop crying, it scared me silly.... turned out it was the new allergy medicine I was taking. Stopped that real quick.
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my mother waked up all hours of the night and early in the mornings. She wanders the house alot and often cries. one night she thought her ( inside) cats were outside and was trying to pick them up to bring them back in the house.they were not there. Mom never stepped foot outside, nor were the cats ever outside. they were under her bed, as usual. what should i make of this ?
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My mom is 93 in a nursing home. She must have dementia because she has all the sypmtoms. She cries alot and doesnt know why...sometimes she will tell us that she is disgusted because she can't do the things she used to do. The doctor there has here on busbar and is going to increase it a little. What do you do when she cries like that...we have tried to ignore it and it seems to stop a little...or we try to comfort her and that doesn't seem to stop. It is heartbreaking for sure! We don't want her on a lot of meds to calm her down because then she will be sleeping all the time. Is all of this normal for some one with dementia?
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Dr. Andrew Saul, who wrote "Doctor Yourself" and "Fire Your Doctor" sites amazing results with Vitamin D for Depression. If it were my mom, I'd get her levels of D and B checked. But that's me - I always hit the vitamin bottle before anything else. I have this funny theory that people are not deficient in any chemical, but certainly may be deficient in a mineral or vitamin. Again; that's just me! It would break my heart to have to hear this crying and not be able to do anything about it... I wish you the very best.
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I feel you pain, my mother is 81 dr thinks she has dementia, she has suffered mental illness my entire life, she cries ALL THE TIME too. My dad passed 18 years ago and she she has cried everyday since, he is all she ever talks about, over and over again. The dr has had her on every "mood" drug know to man, nothing works. I send ((((HUGS)))) your way, I so can relate to how heartbreaking and frustrating it is to have the crying all the time and not be able to help. God Bless you.
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