I have been through so many care givers that they finally ran out of people to send. I called and searched online and through Visiting Nurses and calling places.
I then called the Probate Attorney and her Primary Car doc and Geriatric Psychiatrist. They filled out paperwork for her to go to Assisted Living.
I found a wonderful place that is like a resort. The food is off a menu and she has her own private room, plus her long term care accepts this place.
My sister in Florida (who stole from her and does nothing) told her to contest this. She kept calling and calling and finally the Judge ordered mom to be returned home!
I was so angry I told the court that: We are getting robbed of a VCR, expensive flat wear, groceries are purchased then taken home on their days off. They watch TV all day, upstairs (I do walk ins to check) and are just lazy, inept workers that cannot cook or clean. She complains about everyone.
Now that she has been returned home, when she complains, I just say: "This is what you wanted".
Just this past week, groceries were ordered and on the shift change (it was reported to me) the person leaving walked out with some of the groceries ordered.
They are using the travel oxygen tank instead of the one plugged into the wall. Then when I go to a doctors appointment, the tank is empty! Today, I found that they connected her to a travel tank, that was EMPTY! Talk about negligent.
Why would a JUDGE disobey (2) doctors orders for Assisted Living under these circumstances? I cannot babysit these people anymore. It is too stressful.
She is now wearing ripped and dirty clothes and refuses to bath or even put on deodorant. How can I take her to any appointments when she is so "non-compliant"?
She was much better off where she was and I could go home knowing everything was taken care of and she was interacting at meals with others, playing bingo and had a call button around her neck so help was there in 2 minutes.
The Judge even stated: "This is the nicest assisted living place I have ever been, but Ms. Perry wants to go home, so it is so ordered."
COURT has not business interfering in her doctors orders. They wrote: "Ms. Perry can NO LONGER make decisions (health care and financial especially) on her own."
She needs medical staff to give her "meds" and "at home care" is not allowed to pass or pour meds.( it is illegal) I got them in a Monday-Sunday box, but she is so lost, she even messes this up. She just picks any row, and the staff just let her!
What would you do?