My mother has recently been moved to an assisted living facility. Now she is showing intense anger, how do I handle this?
She was on her own until this winter when a broken hip caused her to be in the hospital, nursing home and now assisted living. She has become increasingly socially withdrawn over the last 6-7 years and is refusing to be involved in any of the activities at the care center. Her emotions are very erratic. Usually she is alert and friendly, but can quickly and unexpectedly become enraged. She is very frustrated about her diminishing independence and increasing frailty. I am usually the one who gets to witness the rage though she at times will direct it toward the care staff. Once the rage starts both trying to get her to relax or trying to comfort her result in even greater loss of emotional control. Last week when this happened I told her I loved her but would need to leave when she acted that way, then left. I could hear her screams all the way to the front door. She has not wanted to discuss this situation, but also has not lost control since then. Any advice about how best to handle this?