How do I handle my mothers constant complaining when I am on the phone with her?
I call my Mom every day, I see her every week, and every time my Mom complains to me about not having enough money, not being able to drive, not being able to go shopping, not being able to get her hair done when she wants, not having me come by as often, not being able to go food shopping. I have automated as much as I can for my Mom, food being delivered that I order online, prescriptions being mailed to her on a regular basis, I have set up accounts at a taxi service which she refused to use, I go over and take her out once a week, and no matter what I do, not matter how much I help her, not matter how much I listen and make suggestions like taking the taxi, taking the senior shuttle etc she goes on and on and on, it gives me anxiety and I always wind up feeling guilty that I never do enough for her. My Mom is 82, a widow, lives in her own house still, has a really hard time walking, just recovered from breast cancer and cannot drive. I feel guilty if I do not call her everyday to check on her, how do I personally handle this? I always feel so down after talking to her!