How do I handle early cognitive impairment or dementia in my 88-year-old mom?
Yesterday, she called a pest control company because there were yellow jackets around the front porch. Without realizing it, she paid in full over the phone with a credit card before the guy even came. Then she got mad at the woman, and herself, and ruminated on it for several hours. No soothing on my part did any good at all. One of my sisters suggested I just do things for her, but I have been working on setting boundaries, so I'm caught between a rock and a hard place! I never quite know what she can handle and what she can't. And if she really can't take care of herself in her condo, is it reasonable to think she can continue living there? She is not going to become more competent. To make it worse, my two sisters and I have shared POA, in which my lawyer says we have to act unanimously to exercise any power. As it stands now, I live the closest and do the most. I frankly feel like giving up. I am a widow as well, age 64, and I'm trying to maintain some sort of life of my own. I don't know if I can handle two lives and two homes. Any suggestions? I find this site so helpful!