Mom is 87 taking care of Dad 89 and insists on no help and living at home. Dad has dementia and is no long able to take care of himself. It is now going on 5 years with decline in both of their health. One sister lives in area 50 miles away and has helped each week but has health problems herself. Mom does not want to leave home nor have anyone come into her home to help with care other than her children.All but one live far away. Her health and my father's health are suffering because of this. How would you help get her into a nursing home or insist on more home care withoutarguing or fighting with her. It has reached a point a decision has to be made. How would you handle this? All 5 kids can help with in home care if she would let them if she wants to stay she has refused? How do we do this without giving her a heart attack?